GOOD FATHER DAYS

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GOOD FATHER DAYS

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Today is Good Father Day. Tomorrow is Good Father Day. Every day is Good Father Day.

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Good fathers come in many forms and packages.

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Here’s my toast to:

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motherless fathers

fathers who’ve lost their children

fathers whose children have been taken from them

fathers of mothers

fathers of grandmothers

absentee fathers

honorary fathers

mysterious fathers

fathers who are always there

poster fathers

flawed fathers

stepfathers

adoptive fathers

bad-example-but-still-trying fathers

adopted fathers

fathers in name only

clueless fathers

clumsy fathers

fathers we wish we had known better

fathers we know only too well

highfalutin’ fathers

humble fathers

welfare fathers

imprisoned fathers

hugging fathers

distant and cool fathers

dream fathers

dreamy fathers

fathers we would give anything to see again

creative fathers

fathers who do what they can do, just for us

brilliant fathers

caretaker fathers

sacrificing fathers

storybook fathers

protective fathers

biological fathers

test-tube fathers

guardian fathers

only-in-their-imagination fathers

good-pal fathers

uplifting fathers

grandfathers

great grandfathers

fathers  both great and grand

not-so-grand-but-still-trying fathers

foster fathers

stand-in fathers

well-meaning fathers

wanna-be fathers

to-be fathers

long-gone fathers

faraway fathers

gentle fathers

good example fathers

gay fathers

straight fathers

not-quite-sure fathers

surrogate fathers

trans fathers

black fathers

brown fathers

red fathers

pale pink fathers

pasty complexioned fathers

swarthy fathers

fathers we wish we had

fathers we wish we had back

fathers and grandfathers who serve as mothers

fathers on bail

disenfranchised fathers

hospitalized fathers

fathers in nursing homes

fathers who never ask for thanks

funny fathers

fun fathers

sad fathers

sacrificial fathers

attentive fathers

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AND ESPECIALLY: fathers who always take the time

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In a way, I love them all, these good fathers, mainly because we never appreciate them enough and they never feel they give enough.

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I just want them to know that I thought about them for a few special moments, that I wish them well for all they’ve done or hoped to do for us, their babies old and young

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© 2025 A.D. by Jim Reed

TIME TO LAUGH, TIME TO PONDER

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TIME TO LAUGH, TIME TO PONDER

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I am about to drop a dozen or so of my latest brain droppings upon you. You may now proceed to pay attention, or you may simply click to something else until I am finished.

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These are spontaneous thoughts that appeared without permission in my head. I will generously share them, while at the same time sparing you the dozens of other things that currently float about. Those may come later.

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Here goes:

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Be careful what you fail to wish for.

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It feels good to believe what is convenient, even if it is fake.

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This is a day the mind planned out the activities, but reality had its own plot.

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What would happen if nothing happened?

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When I share my burden with you I am somehow delegating part of that burden to you. If this is not my intention, why am I sharing it?

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I believe in mutually assured kindness.

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I run on three ascending states of mind—underwhelmed, whelmed, overwhelmed.

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Exactly when did I learn when to say When?

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I made him an offer he couldn’t accept.

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I always enjoy the storm before the quiet.

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Does hokey always precede pokey?

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Seven days have passed since last week occurred.

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I caught a Glimpse. It struggled a bit so I released it.

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When roaches abound, Flamenco dancers come in handy.

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Take today by the shoulders, give it a good shaking. Make it so that you will recall it with fondness and goodwill.

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Happily comport yourself as if you are somebody worth saying “Good morning!” to.

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Each day, make every effort not to make things worse.

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Thanks for mulling over my meanderings. I hope you jot down some of your own. There’s a lot of goofy and wise stuff floating about you. Might as well examine and learn to go with the float

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© 2025 A.D. by Jim Reed

 

 

 

WHAT’S BETTER THAN INHALING BEHIND AN IDLING BUS?

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WHAT’S BETTER THAN INHALING BEHIND AN IDLING BUS?

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She is standing before an old stained-glass church that houses the honors program at a local university. She is working on her tobaccolaureate degree.

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Alone, she puffs away, gazing wistfully at the branches of a big tree, who knows what,  going through her mind.

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If you take time to look, you’ll see other nicotined scholars, only they seem more isolated than they were prior to the advent of palmed phones.

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Way back when, puffers were the last sociable people on earth. They stood in groups before buildings high and low, chatting and sharing and signifying and learning more about each other than they’d ever learn inside their cocooned work places, where they stared at  screens or dozed spasmodically or filed nails or filed files.

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Outside, in the particulated air, they grew to know little things about the people they seldom spoke to once inside the buildings.

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Then, the pod-people devices came along, so that now, even though puffers still stand outside, many only talk into the ether to people whose bodies are not present, ignoring fellow solitudes who stand just inches away, talking into their armpits as if their conversations deal with life-threatening issues. Or they speak silently with pecking thumbs.

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Me? What do I inhale each day that is half better than what these folks inhale?

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Well, here at the shop, the fragrances embedded within old books and newspapers and magazines and ink blotters and documents and brochures and maps are fragrances unlike any you’ll ever experience elsewhere. They blend with the inherent fragrances of old high-rag-content paper, old highly acidic paper, to be fermented and reborn as new and more mysterious fragrances.
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To gain the attention of an old bookie like me,  just dab some of that fragrance behind your earlobe and pass by. “There’s something about that customer,” I’ll say to myself.
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So, a book addict is standing inside the 1890′s building that houses the last and final old rare bookstore in the village. He is working on his bookalaureate degree.

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Alone, he inhales the gossamer essences, gazing wistfully at centuries of tomes stacked about him, who knows what going through his mind

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© 2025 A.D. by Jim Reed

HOW TO PLAY PLOWSHARE PEEKABOO

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HOW TO PLAY PLOWSHARE PEEKABOO

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During my amazingly long life (Nature has been more than generous.) I have come to realize that just about everything repeats itself…repeatedly.

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My uncles returning home from World War II combat, brought with them small souvenirs, reminders of what they had endured under fire.

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There was a hollowed-out hand grenade, repurposed as an ashtray, re-imagined as a toy or living room gewgaw. There were small German-made toys plucked from bombed-out playgrounds. There was a section of silken parachute saved by my paratrooper uncle, two purple heart medals now available for children to wonder about, a cloth soldier’s cap ready for us young’uns to wear proudly. There was even a luger deactivated as a showpiece.

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And there were all those painful memories of combat that no-one dared share in unedited original versions. Our uncles told hair raising adult stories to adults…but only in private. They told the same stories to us tots and toddlers and teens, but only as carefully expurgated and humorous tales. They never talked about the horrors. They made sure we laughed at their wartime antics. They had learned the hard way how to turn swords into plowshares, how to compress the past and expand the outlier goodness that can also occur in conflict.

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They had already experienced in youth what we too would have to learn one way or another—that if you believe in “an eye for an eye…” pretty soon the world itself would be blind.

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When everything eventually repeats itself, when repetition itself is impossible to halt, then in between times become the most important, the most cherished times. Diving into the good life, holding on to family and friends and humankind…that must be the thing that there is always time for.

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We know that the repeated hard days will return, but we must learn to live as if this is not true. Hope and love and longing is the path worth taking. Respecting the past is reverent and human, but focusing on the good that is within us is worthy of our time here

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© Jim Reed 2025 A.D.

EVOLUTION OF A SMART ALECK

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EVOLUTION OF A SMART ALECK

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Maturity is highly overrated, according to Garfield the cartoon cat.

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Dipping back into the far past, long before Garfield existed, I find myself remembering how I learned to be noticed once in a while. Living within a family of two parents, five kids and various pets and neighbors and relatives, one must be clever but never destructive when vying for position.

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If I make a scene, throw a tantrum, spout something outrageous, mistreat siblings, I will never hear the end of it. But if I can capture interest, engage everybody in a special activity or diversion, attention will be briefly paid.

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Briefly-paid attention from others is my basic need as a child, my basic need to this day.

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I notice that the most insignificant things often rise up and become big-time important for a few seconds if properly executed.

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For instance, if I run through the house hoisting a large hosepipe attached to a vacuum machine, announcing, “I’m going to pressure wash my teeth. Be back in a minute!” I might receive a modicum of attention. Those familiar with my behavior will barely blink, those who do not know me might panic or duck for cover. Or laugh.

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If on the other hand I simply mention that I’m about to brush my teeth, no-one will notice or care.

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But wait—there’s more. If I say, “I think I’ll go to the bathroom and scrub my teeth,” people may look at me peculiarly but immediately continue their daily routines.

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To gain attention and a few laughs, I might yell, “It’s time for me to brush my nose and blow my teeth.” At that point I become the family entertainer. People might pause and wait to see what else I’m going to do—just in case it turns out to be funny.

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And so on.

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My main goal in life is to be so invisible that I can quietly take notes and write about everything that goes on, everything that does not go on, everything that I wish would go on, everything I wish would never go on.

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Invisibility is comforting. It is my cloak, my blankie.

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Now and then, I must emerge from invisibility to enjoy contact with other humans. This is when I find my smart aleck behavior to be useful. I can enjoy the interactions but I can also quickly vanish when enough is enough.

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Does this make any sense? If not, you too can escape me by descending into your own private briar patch. You don’t have to put up with people like me.

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I just provided you with an escape hatch.

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You’re welcome

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© Jim Reed 2025 A.D.

MISSING MOM

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MISSING MOM

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I know where you live, Mom.

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Even though you have been out of sight for many decades, it is still quite wonderful to know that you haven’t really gone missing.

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I know where you live now. I know I can visit with you at will. I know you are always present, even though you are invisible.

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I thank you, Mom, for working overtime some 83 years…working overtime to make daily donations to the nurture and well-being and wisdom of the family you never gave up on.

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Even when there were gaps in my attentions and intentions, I loved you every day you were here on Earth. Your presence was so powerful, your influence so unflagging, that you remained my overseer, my guiding light, my shepherd, for all those years.

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The greatest gift I ever received from you, Mom, was the gift of attention, the kind of loving and ever-present attention that all good and able moms provide to their offspring.

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I took you for granted in a special way, a loving way. That’s because you were always in my corner, forever supportive of even my silliest endeavors, always waiting for my reappearance…always ready to share my rants and raves and gossips and concerns.

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Let’s face it, Mom. You were just the perfect Mom for a kid like me.

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And thanks, Mom, for being present in heart and memory. Thanks for remaining safely inside me. Thanks for being the sum total of all that is good in me. I need you every day.

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I will be your escort through all the days that remain

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© Jim Reed 2025 A.D.

ANTIDOTE CEILING

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ANTIDOTE CEILING

 

“Resentment is like drinking poison

and waiting for the other person to die.”

–Carrie Fisher

 

Lying here in the darkened room on my freshly-made bed, staring at the stars projected on the ceiling by my Spitz Junior Planetarium, I silently ponder the Universe, and the Universe silently and dispassionately ignores me.

 

When I was young and green and burdened with the implanted beliefs of the people in my little world, I could actually delude myself into thinking that all’s well that ends well, that it’s easy to whistle a happy tune whenever I feel afraid, that if you do unto others they will do likewise unto you, that if you’re really good and search hard for your mittens you’ll get some pie.

 

I know now, ruminating and reminiscing, that none of the above will necessarily happen. I know now that not everything ends well—but sometimes it does, that if you whistle past the graveyard, you may still be frightened—but sometimes not, that if you practice the Golden Rule, others will seldom practice it right back—but now and then somebody might, that if you work hard and do good deeds you may never, ever be rewarded—but once in a while it can happen.

 

I’m also in the process of trying to digest the immutable fact that I should be mature enough to find satisfaction in the good things that occur spasmodically and unpredictably, that I shouldn’t spend much of my time resenting the good stuff that doesn’t happen, the bad stuff that often happens.

 

When will I stop taking the poison?

 

When will I realize that accentuating the positive is the antidote, that eliminating the negativity is required to live a peaceful life?

 

And, once I realize this, when will I learn to forget and truly forgive—which are one and the same thing? Remembrance is a burden sometimes.

 

But now, as I grow, remembrance is the sweetest thing in the starry-ceiling Universe

 

© Jim Reed 2025 A.D.

 

A DRUM ROLL FOR ROY

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A DRUM ROLL FOR ROY

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   Imagine the horror of being a victim of the bad guys in a Roy Rogers 1940s cowboy adventure movie! Remember, Roy himself never killed or hurt anybody—well, maybe a punch or two stung some bad guys into repentance—and he certainly never did anything mean-minded.

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But when Roy wasn’t around on the big black white and gray screen, bad things could happen.

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One of the scariest things I ever saw in a Roy Rogers movie: the Bad Guys, deciding to rid themselves of somebody who might snitch on them, lock this guy in an empty oil barrel and drop it into a deep lake.

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Holy Cow!

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I was suddenly inside that barrel, feeling the rusty darkness trapping me on all sides, feeling my air running out, wondering if I’d die from suffocation or from drowning, depending on whether the water engulfed me before my breathing stopped, wondering how it would feel for my lungs to burst in a mighty panic of pain and helplessness.

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It was quite an experience, vicariously dying inside that oil drum inside that Roy Rogers movie inside the Ritz Theater inside my little Down South village.

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That’s why one day, when my father brought home an empty human-size oil drum for us kids to play with, I was filled with excitement—now I could act out all my fears by using that drum, controlling that drum, conquering that drum!

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And boy, did we kids do all of the above and more.

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For years, that oil drum was my favorite toy in the back yard. One moment, the drum would become a real drum—we’d bang on the sealed end with sticks and hands and whatever else would annoy adults and neighbors, whatever would delight and excite us.

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Another moment, the drum would become a large log floating in a river of grass. Two of us kids would stand up on either end of the tipped-over drum and pretend to be roughhewn loggers—try to stay in place and force the other kid to fall to the ground first, in a fit of laughter and disorientation.

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Or the drum would become a circus act. I’d stand on it and run rapidly forward, while the drum would roll backwards. This usually lasted a few seconds at most, but in those few seconds the circus fans would be on their feet, cheering in awe of my feat.

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Then, tipping the drum over and getting inside was an entirely new experience. Somebody else would roll that drum real fast and you would hold to the insides as stiffly as possible to keep from being pummeled to death.

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Or, even when nobody was around, you could get inside and roll yourself around, having a grand contest with yourself to see how long you could last, how far you could go before blindly bumping into something or someone—preferably not a disapproving adult.

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Other times, we would play Game Hunter and Cannibals. One or two of us weaker ones would have to play the Hunter victims, being slowly boiled into a fine meal in that vertical drum, while savages danced wildly about, anxious that their food not be overcooked.

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Fortunately, we had no matches, so we were only cooked by the heat of the sun and the radiating heat from inside the drum.

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When it suddenly began raining, you could get inside that drum and tilt it vertical, closed-end up, and stay dry—and hidden, if the need was there. And if lightning were to strike, perhaps the Frankensteinian result would be to become some kind of super-strong masked hero with electrical powers.

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During more deliberative moments, the drum became an encapsulated time-machine, and you could take your own fantastic voyages inside the metal darkness all by yourself.

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Oh, it was a grand toy, that oil drum, the kind of toy I wish I could share with all little kids who are tired of toys that do everything for you, toys you lose interest in immediately or, worse still, toys that hypnotize you for hours and give you nothing in return to imagine, think about later, go to bed tired over.

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The Roy Rogers Backyard Oil Drum will never be listed as a valuable collectible in any antique guide, but it’s the  kind of collectible that’s really important—the toy that stays in your mind and your heart all the way from childhood to old age.

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Wish you had been there

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© Jim Reed 2025 A.D.

THE EASTER EGG THE EASTER WORM AND ME

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THE EASTER EGG THE EASTER WORM AND ME

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There is a glistening, squiggly brown earthworm hiding just under the Easter egg I’m grabbing from the damp red clay near my grandparents’ home in Peterson, Alabama, this bright sunny Sunday, circa 1946.

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Suddenly, my zeal in finding more treasure than cousins and siblings is placed on hold. Standing frozen, clutching the aqua-dyed hard boiled condiment in one hand and a small hand-woven basket in the other, I squint at the alien creature and wonder what it will do, now that I’ve exposed it to a larger reality.

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I am regarding the earthworm, but I wonder whether it is regarding me.

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It curls and stretches and begins burrowing into a deeper earth, so I decide that it has no interest in me and my Easter egg.

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Which end is front, which is back? How does it eat? How does it even see?

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I can’t help pondering during this extended moment. I know something special has happened, but I cannot quite express what that something special is.

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Suddenly, I become the worm and begin feeling the soft red clay sliding past my extended exterior. It is getting darker as I leave the sunshine behind and head for home. Is my wormy family waiting for me to relate my adventure? How will I explain my excitement? How will I describe objects that I cannot name?

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“Ma, this gigantic roundish object was on the ground, and I thought I would hide beneath it for a time, but suddenly these five pudgy pale pink worms came down from the sky and just missed squashing me. They lifted the big round thing up to the sky and disappeared!”

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What will Ma say when I tell her this? Will she dismiss the whole thing as something I dreamed up? Will she curl around me and comfort me till I settle down? Can she actually see in the dark?

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“Jimbo! C’mon over here and let’s count your eggs,” cousin Jerry yells. I snap out of my tiny worm world and run over to other relatives and family to continue the Easter egg hunt.

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Later that night, Mother gives me permission to eat the aqua-colored egg. As I crack and peel away the shell, the soft shiny white surface reminds me of the shiny earthworm family I’ll never get to know.

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I silently nibble on the egg and pay secret respects to the critters that surround my small world…the worms that may become fish bait, the fish that may become food, the egg itself that might have become a baby chick…and the worms that, a few decades down the road, may become the diners rather than the dined

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© Jim Reed 2025 A.D.

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HOW YOU HELP ME BROWSE THE DAY

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HOW YOU HELP ME BROWSE THE DAY

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An idle mind is a playground that in ungrammatical Latin might be called Idioticus Moronicus.

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If you are a Down South Latin scholar, try to treat me kindly. I’m just having fun here and I don’t want to shake the Universe asunder. Just want to cause a smile or a giggle.

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Anyhow, Idioticus Moronicus is a term I use to dismiss incredibly silly thoughts that arise when I am not at my most intelligent best. The way I remain semi-sane is to stay alert and swat away all things moronic.

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People wander through my life at a leisurely pace, here in the bookshop at the center of the galaxy. Each browser brings baggage that consists of such things as attitude, mood, tentative ideas, hope, despair, humor, playfulness, curiosity, tragedy, anecdotes, avoidance, anger, sunlight, willingness to be seen and heard, desire to be invisible. And so on.

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Owning a bookstore is both a spectator sport and an advanced course in species behavior. If I don’t pay close attention to each and every denizen of the aisles, I will miss something important. So I take notes, I file away observations for later contemplation. Sometimes I try to engage. Sometimes I surprise or even frighten perusers with my curiosity, my avidity. Sometimes I awaken a sleeping mind and end up having a delightful conversation.

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How a customer reacts to the bookshop tells me a sidebar story about a life unseen.

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For instance, entrances and exits are profoundly interesting.

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Here are a few reactions that browsers display as they enter the store:

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“Omigod!” Open-mouth wide eyed surprise at the plethora of overlapping objects.

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“Wow! Never seen anything like this before. I was warned.”

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“Good grief! Where did you get all this stuff?”

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“Is this a liberry?”

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“Have you read all these books?”

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“I don’t read. I’m just looking for old stuff.”

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“Look at this, Maud. Do you know what this is?” Handling a drive-in movie speaker.

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“Oh, the best book I ever read!” Picking up a copy of To Kill A Mockingbird.

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“Where did you get all this stuff?”

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“You got any books on witchcraft?”

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“I had this book when I was a kid, but I never found a copy anywhere in the country. I can’t believe you have it. Can I buy it?” All smiles, all excitement.

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You can tell that I take great pleasure in hearing these comments, in helping people who wish to be helped, in being merely available to those who do not wish to be helped. I also take pleasure in showing off special books or sharing unique facts when a customer seems open to new ideas.

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It is a random life, this bookie profession. Each moment is filled with expectation because I have no idea who or what will enter the door next. Keeps me on edge in the most exciting ways.

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I don’t need to be electronically entertained or wooed. All I have to do is unlock the door and await the next adventure

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© Jim Reed 2025 A.D.

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